A large number of people may not be aware that many grandchildren are alienated and denied access to their natural blood related grandparents. These children grow up not having the love and support that could be offered through a healthy relationship with their grandparents. They miss out on learning about their family history, what their parent was like as child growing up, about relatives and the medical history of their parent. In the case where their other parent is deceased, the child has many questions as to what happened to their parent. Blocking the child from knowing this information can cause a child to imagine or guess at scenarios without knowing the actual facts and details.
My daughter Jennifer, died Jan. 15, 2009. She gave birth to one son. Due to our daughter’s addiction and that our grandson had been cared for by us since birth, we were granted legal guardians of her son. (His other parent choosing to remain absent from his life the first 5 1/2 years of his life). When our grandson was in kindergarten, his father decided to be a participating parent and our grandson moved to live with him.
A year and a half later, our grandson’s mother died. We have been denied any contact and alienated from our grandson since his mother (my daughter) died (over ten years ago).
Recently, I went to watch my grandson’s last home basketball game in Brandon, Florida at a small private school. The public was invited on social media to come out and support the team. I was acknowledged by my grandson’s father & now step-parent that my husband and I had sat down on the bleachers to watch the basketball game. The step parent notified the administrators of the school that (grandparents) were at the school. We were quickly approached by the school administrators and asked to leave the school. We were told they would contact the police if we did not leave the game.
This is a sad but true story. My prayers go out to all the grandchildren who miss out on a loving relationship with their natural grandparents when their other parent dies or when other factors preclude what should be a natural relationship with their grandparents and other family members, such as aunts, uncles, cousins and great-grandparents.
I have been speaking on this subject for over ten years and have been contacted by many grandparents who share with me similar stories. They step in the gap for their grandchildren due to addiction issues or the parents incarceration and after the family relationships have evolved, the other parent decides to engage, leaving the grandchildren disengaged and emotionally detached, without loving grandparents.
Founder of The Jennifer Act